Tuesday, September 7, 2010

"And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.”

My river friends and I, want to say happy trails to the man in the mirror. Our friend TJ beamed up on August 31, 2010. He spent much of his time with his friends on our river.


“Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.”



Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet



We hope it's a wonderful new adventure.



We'll miss you TJ

The river gang.



Picture taken by Kim Hebert

27 comments:

Carol said...

Heading to the funeral home tonight to say goodbye. Check back later.

jan said...

Carol, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your river friend. My condolences to you, Kim and the rest of his friends.

jan said...

"They can disappear in the blink of an eye. When they're this young, there's no real discipline - they're just wild, free little spirits that want to experience everything (all at once, with no rules), and the have little compre.hension of pain or danger (or in many instances, cause and effect)"

Chloe, how I can identify with what you said here. I could write a book on the little crises with my 3 sons when they were small - and larger too. When I look back, I wonder how we all survived. I think my age (I was so young with the 1st 2 boys) was probably an advantage for me. I did not worry, I just took things as they happened.Now I worry too much. I don't think I could do what you do Chloe - but then I think we all do what we have to do in certain circumstances.

jan said...

Chloe, I brought your comment over from the last post.

jan said...

Coreen, I am much better. Mine were only allergies after all.

My only problem is I am dealing with a property situation that my sister initiated. I love her too much to be angry with her, but it is costing me a good deal in terms of stress and legal fees. I am not a patient person either. I hate that these legal issues take so long to resolve. I was my dad's personal rep with my stepmother in his will when my dad died. He had a good bid of property and doled out his more liquid resources in little "bits." I handled the entire thing. My stepmother merely gave me her bill for her own expenses and anything and she had paid for. She did find an atty for the probate in the beginning and then fired her and so I found an atty who specialized in wills and probate. She had the "balls" to present me with the bill for the atty that she hired and then fired. On the advice of my atty, I paid it.

I am sorry for all the lawyer jokes. I have had the good fortune to have worked with some attorneys.

jan said...

...some really great attorneys.

jan said...

Carol, TJ looks like a pretty young guy. How sad that he died so young!

Carol said...

I'm back. Went out to eat with friends. Yes Jan, TJ was only 45. That's really young.

TJ didn't live or have a camp out here but you wouldn't know it. He was always out here because he loved the river. He also loved music and hanging out with our river band. He liked to sing and was learning to play the bass guitar. Robert, the guy in the green cap was teaching him. If he would have had a little more time, he would have had playing that guitar down.

Carol said...

Don't let this blog post hold anyone up from putting up a new post. I just wanted to send TJ off properly.

jan said...

Hi all, I just finished watching AGT. If Jackie Evanko does not win this, I won't trust the judging in this contest. She is so amazing. The little girl, Anna, in the dance team fell coming down the stairs in the beginning of their dance and I think it affected her performance. She was so tearful at the end. I almost cried for her. Only 4 acts will go to finals next week.

jan said...

Sorry you all. I just don't have a new post in me right now. I am feeling pretty "down" This too will pass.

jan said...

Carol, What caused TJ's death? You might have said earlier and I missed it.

jan said...

Carol, the picture of TJ is really an interesting picture, with him reflected in the mirror.

jan said...

Great poem by Kalil Gibran.


"on a slow
day here I will put up some pics of the angel afghan & the little doll in her sweater at her baptism..."

Coreen, this is a slow day - I for one would love to see pics of your angel afghan and "the little doll" in her sweater ....

Chloe said...

Carol, I'm sorry for your loss - he was way too young.

Chloe said...

"I think we all do what we have to do in certain circumstances."

You said it all, right there Jan.

I'm so so sorry to hear that you're still going through all that stress with your sister and your property. Again, I quote you: "This too will pass". There are times when that thought is the only thing that can get us through certain situations. Meantime, all you can do is focus on other things. I hope it's resolved soon.

Chloe said...

... Jan, it's hard to know what to say to someone when they're going through that kind of stress, something that I know is bothering you on so many levels. I'm sure it's caused you way too much pain already.

Hang in there.

Chloe said...

"Coreen, this is a slow day - I for one would love to see pics of your angel afghan and "the little doll" in her sweater ...."

I 'second that' Coreen!
I would love to see some pictures of your work.

Carol said...

Jan, you have my deepest sympathy. What I can't understand is why you needed to pay for your Stepmother's attorney and why your attorney suggested you should?? I guess it could be because that attorney could tie up something you need to deal with.

Carol said...

Jan, TJ had heart disease. He already had multiple stents.

Carol said...

"British researchers at the University of Nottingham's School of Veterinary Medicine and Science are behind the discovery, which entails harnessing molecules from the tissues of cockroaches and locusts to combat bacteria like E. coli and MRSA (drug-resistant staph infections).

The potent chemicals, found in the brain and central nervous tissues of the critters, are able to kill 90 percent of E. coli and MRSA in lab-based tests."

http://www.aolnews.com/surge-desk/article/do-cockroaches-hold-the-cure-for-drug-resistant-bacteria/19623630?icid=main%7Cmain%7Cdl3%7Csec1_lnk3%7C169011

Interesting but that antibiotic might be a tad difficult to swallow. I guess everything just might have some purpose for being.

Carol said...

Coreen, I'm looking forward to your post also.

Carol said...

Today's Daily Word:

"Healing
The healing power of Spirit renews me.
Wholeness is the true state of my being as a child of God. Whenever I feel out of alignment with this truth, I stop to calm my thoughts, rest my body and focus on the healing power of Spirit that moves through me. Recognizing that I am one with Spirit in mind and body, I embrace this loving life force flowing through me as the source of my well-being. I visualize myself as vital, healthy, well and whole.

Guided by Spirit, I make wise choices. Nutritious food, energizing exercise and positive thoughts are staples of my everyday life. I am mindful of balancing work and play, activity and rest. I set aside time for prayer and quiet contemplation. I live well. I am well."

For with you is the fountain of life; in your light we see light.--Psalm 36:9

Carol said...

Tomorrow is the first real Saint's game. They are playing the Vikings and it's on Network. I think NBC.

Coreen said...

Jan, while I don't know the particulars of
your probate matter, I can only say that whenever there is any money involved upon the
passing of a family member, it seems the worse comes out in many & it causes friction that sometimes is never resolved...I have seen this
repeaatedly over the years, family ties are
strained & regardless of whether the value of assets is small or large, it just brings out the worse in some...

As far as specifics that you mention re: paying
the Stepmother's atty fees/expenses, likely
since she was named an executor/administrator
of the estate, she had the authority to retain
an atty in the furtherance of processing the
estate as would the co-executor, therefore you
being advised to pay those costs would not
be unusual...at least here...& there may also
be state statutes &/or case law that permits
that....

Hopefully, over time you & your sister will be
able to put this stressful situation in the past, but whatever does happen, I would think/hope that as long as you know in your heart you are pursuing the course that is most fair & reasonable, in the end you will be able to get past it, even if
others can not....

Coreen said...

Carol, my thoughts & condolences to you & your riverfriends with regard to the passing of your friend TJ...personal loss of someone you know/care about seems to place life's events in perpective more clearly....

Coreen said...

Ok, are you ready for a new post...