tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post546714588088262825..comments2023-10-12T08:55:29.120-05:00Comments on Carol's Southern Spice: Fishing Day.....Finally!Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comBlogger161125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-37976299897082655142010-10-09T09:42:00.041-05:002010-10-09T09:42:00.041-05:00I'm not including those who are physically or ...I'm not including those who are physically or mentally or intellectually handicapped, but some bullies and victims might share some of the same characteristics in that they don't feel very good about themselves but deal with it in two entirely different ways. And it is difficult to discuss the matter by separating the preditor from it's prey.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-37081587491203765592010-10-09T08:48:27.114-05:002010-10-09T08:48:27.114-05:00... and they're often mean to animals too. Un...... and they're often mean to animals too. Unforgivable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-42785618823485121972010-10-09T08:44:56.293-05:002010-10-09T08:44:56.293-05:00I think maybe it's a mistake to discuss the bu...I think maybe it's a mistake to discuss the bully and the victim in the same conversation - that they are best left as completely separate issues. <br /><br />The 'bully' is probably bullying everyone, not just the 'vulnerable person'. The vulnerable person just happens to suffer the most from it. And we have to keep in mind, bullies often go after children too. They're experts at finding weakness.<br /><br />A person that only goes after people weaker than they are is a coward, in my opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-31192603735647869822010-10-09T08:43:17.443-05:002010-10-09T08:43:17.443-05:00Mary, that is so good to hear. I can't even i...Mary, that is so good to hear. I can't even imagine what it's going to be like for those guys, when they come out of there - and their families.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-84216686670138771362010-10-09T08:13:11.499-05:002010-10-09T08:13:11.499-05:00I just heard on the news that those miners in Chil...I just heard on the news that those miners in Chili may be freed as early as today. At first they said they may not be able to get these miners out until close to Christmas. I know their families must be so happy.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10778066792332825411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-53878729513251661712010-10-09T08:03:53.079-05:002010-10-09T08:03:53.079-05:00We are never going to solve the problem that there...We are never going to solve the problem that there are mean, evil people in this world. Ain't going to happen. But we can help victims learn how to avoid these people or examine if there is something they are doing to invite this meanness.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-87855352138923050852010-10-09T07:56:44.645-05:002010-10-09T07:56:44.645-05:00For example, if a woman has multiple relationships...For example, if a woman has multiple relationships and every one of them is abusive, is it just her bad luck or is she subconsciously selecting people who will abuse her. If we just blame those who abuse her, we are not going to fix her problem.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-13232022389235288062010-10-09T07:53:39.210-05:002010-10-09T07:53:39.210-05:00Working in all the diverse environments that I hav...Working in all the diverse environments that I have worked has allowed me to study some of these phenomena from all angles. I have seen people who appear to be victims. That seems obvious to most people but after closer examination, I have found that being a victim can be a lifesyle choice, even if not a conscious one.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-31601098125271820772010-10-09T07:48:45.551-05:002010-10-09T07:48:45.551-05:00Jan, I certainly don't mean to put any of the ...Jan, I certainly don't mean to put any of the blame on the bullied person. I'm just pointing out an observation and something I found weird that I had never recognized before. And what I was talking about wasn't anything close to bullying or abuse. <br /><br />When you examine a phenomena, you do have to look at that phenomena from all angles, not just the most obvious one. That is a mistake that is made too often because it is easier. Of course, any time violence is involved, it is definitely the fault of the person using the violence.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-39329394983425805572010-10-09T07:35:23.935-05:002010-10-09T07:35:23.935-05:00Crystal said last night that she was bullied at ho...Crystal said last night that she was bullied at home and at school. She said she thought about suicide constantly. This is the issue. when these kids are bullied, they think their lives will be like this forever. So many kids are committing suicide now b/c of bullying. <br /><br />Crystal did not talk about it last night, but I have read that she has said she is gay. She certainly comes across to me as "different" and that is often what attracts bullies to people.janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444805355043272927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-8435941389521579262010-10-09T07:31:21.374-05:002010-10-09T07:31:21.374-05:00Carol, what you are saying puts the responsibility...Carol, what you are saying puts the responsibility of the bullying on the person bullied. In people who are abused as adults, the problem is in the abuser - not the abused. Likewise, it is not the person who is bullied who has the problem, it is the person who bullies. One of the young men on the show who said he had been a bully - and he looked like a perfectly "nice" guy, said he bullied other kids because he got a positive reaction from his friends. It made him feel good b/c he felt like part of the larger group. So the problem was his - and he needed that outward reaction from his friends to feel good about himself. <br /><br />The biggest issue with bullying now in schools is "cyber" bullying and kids cannot get away from the bully in this case, even when they are at home. The most obvious case of bullying in schools now are those kids who are different - such as from different cultures than than the major group of kids or those who are gay.janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444805355043272927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-85928266388401873142010-10-08T21:51:42.019-05:002010-10-08T21:51:42.019-05:00I remember years back observing a friend of mine p...I remember years back observing a friend of mine pick on a friend of hers. I didn't know the her friend and was surprised that my friend treated her friend that way. After spending more time around this person I noticed that I also felt the desire to treat her the same way. It was weird I really couldn't figure out what this person was doing to make us want to act that way. Since that time I have noticed people who also seem to invite that reaction from people.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-61326450054071754842010-10-08T21:41:12.223-05:002010-10-08T21:41:12.223-05:00Crystal showed signs of low self esteem when on AI...Crystal showed signs of low self esteem when on AI. I think that low self esteem is one of the things that invites bullying. The person is giving off an aura of I'm no good and others pick it up and go after them.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-55919778422293035752010-10-08T21:29:00.936-05:002010-10-08T21:29:00.936-05:00Carol, thanks for the recipe. I will try it out w...Carol, thanks for the recipe. I will try it out when we get home. Sounds delicious. <br /><br />We spent a few hours with my girlhood friend tonight. She drove us all over my home town and shared much of the history of the past 40 years. Fascinating. <br /><br />Am watching Anderson Cooper in an episode on bullying. One of the people he is interviewing is Crystal Bowersox. Dr. Phil is on there too. Crystal said she was bullied both at home and at school.janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444805355043272927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-91879039296709182472010-10-08T19:34:31.448-05:002010-10-08T19:34:31.448-05:00Jan, you can make that box cornbread dressing. It...Jan, you can make that box cornbread dressing. It's pretty good and easier than those veggies you do. Use chicken broth instead of water, add butter, bring to a boil and throw in the cornbread stuffing mix. In 10 minutes you have some cornbread dressing. Wasn't much to baking the chicken either. I wasn't up for much work yesterday either. My salad is usually more of a job that the chicken and stuffing was. But I didn't have the energy left to make my saladCarolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-73619624478777875712010-10-08T18:24:24.263-05:002010-10-08T18:24:24.263-05:00Owasso is pronounounce OH-wass-OHOwasso is pronounounce OH-wass-OHjanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444805355043272927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-10415162320825302822010-10-08T18:23:30.231-05:002010-10-08T18:23:30.231-05:00There are lots of stars right now. More than I ha...There are lots of stars right now. More than I have seen in a while.janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444805355043272927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-66556687036498846442010-10-08T18:22:49.922-05:002010-10-08T18:22:49.922-05:00Owasso Carol. LOL - yep the beginning.Owasso Carol. LOL - yep the beginning.janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444805355043272927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-14549849400813139052010-10-08T18:21:53.934-05:002010-10-08T18:21:53.934-05:00Carol, we can buy a rotisserie chicken here for $5...Carol, we can buy a rotisserie chicken here for $5. and its a big one that makes about 3 meals for John and me. I cook a big mess of fresh veggies in the elec pressure cooker that we have with the chicken. A few nights ago I cooked carrots, potatos, onions and cabbage in some chic broth in the PC - It was so good - and very healthy. I love this pressure cooker - only took 8 minutes to cook the vegs. You do love to cook. Me, I like what is quick and easy. Of course we miss out on the gravy and stuffing - except at Thanksgiving.janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03444805355043272927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-54867090696918315292010-10-08T18:18:54.227-05:002010-10-08T18:18:54.227-05:00So Offwego is your hometown Jan. Instead of the en...So Offwego is your hometown Jan. Instead of the end of the line, it was the beginning for you.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-66245630074153262592010-10-08T18:14:50.764-05:002010-10-08T18:14:50.764-05:00We even welcome space aliens. We already have at ...We even welcome space aliens. We already have at least one of those.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-19017718105127574822010-10-08T18:13:43.265-05:002010-10-08T18:13:43.265-05:00Chloe, some of our stars have been up there too lo...Chloe, some of our stars have been up there too long to think that they are just reading our blog posts. I wish they would talk to us. We are always open to new blog friends. Anyone listening????Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-5999716645616406982010-10-08T17:52:29.987-05:002010-10-08T17:52:29.987-05:00Jan, I baked a chicken last night and I was lookin...Jan, I baked a chicken last night and I was looking at the price of the chicken and how much it cost to get a rotisarre chicken from the store. There's not much difference and you don't have to waste the electricity or gas. The only plus for baking my own is that I get to keep the drippings and make gravy. I love chicken and turkey gravy. I made some cornbread stuffing to put that gravy on. Yummmm. Mag and I are having left overs tonight.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-33793204604321734832010-10-08T17:43:37.821-05:002010-10-08T17:43:37.821-05:00No Yanks game tonight. I'm disappointed. The...No Yanks game tonight. I'm disappointed. They have been my favorite games. Exciting. I did watch the Atlanta game last night also.<br /><br />No problem staying up to finish the game since my telephone kept ringing. Every time I'd get a little snooze going the phone rang. One day I'm gonna lose it and bite someone's head off. And your right Jan, after I wake up to deal with the crisis, I'm awake for a good while. I had 12 calls between 7 and 12:30 last night. <br /><br />I only slept about 30 extra minutes this morning but I was moving slower and went in a little later.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735094423029416610.post-59631261730244314892010-10-08T17:38:10.070-05:002010-10-08T17:38:10.070-05:00I'm not sure how warm it got today, was warmer...I'm not sure how warm it got today, was warmer, but it hasn't felt as warm as summer did. Probably lower humidity. I'm getting dizzy turning the AC on and off all day. Even hit the heater a couple of times in the AM.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040510292724803196noreply@blogger.com